Some couples will choose to have either someone they know or hire a professional for this role. This, of course, is optional and there are pros and cons to consider, but it can be a fun way to add some structure and humor! Absolutely not! Wedding traditions are just that, traditions. They're not rules couples must follow. According to Croce, tradition dictates that there be no more than four speeches during a wedding reception.
Some couples these days, however, are also opting to give a bride speech and a groom speech themselves during the reception to give guests a warm welcome, thank their parents and other VIPs and express their appreciation to everyone who showed up to celebrate their big day. Whatever you decide, keep the time in mind. If you decide to have more than four speeches during the reception ensure each of them is brief.
The last thing you want is for speeches to drag on and cut into other things on the itinerary such as dinner and cutting of the cake.
A good rule of thumb, Croce recommends, is keeping the entire speech portion of the reception to 20 minutes, maximum. From there, you can divide up those minutes between the different speakers.
If there are other important people in your lives who would also like to say a few words as well, such as wedding party members bridesmaids, groomsmen , grandparents, or close friends, the rehearsal dinner is a great opportunity for that.
Rehearsal dinners are often more casual, intimate, and less structured, which means there's more wiggle room for additional speakers that won't have the chance to speak during the wedding reception. Now that you have the traditional wedding speech order mapped out, the next step is planning out when exactly the speeches fit into your wedding reception timeline.
Timing is very important, especially with speeches because you want to have your guests' undivided attention and keep them entertained and engaged all the way through. If speeches are done too early on during the meal, guests will still be finding their seats, chatting amongst each other, and servers may be shuffling around which can be noisy and distracting for guests.
If the wedding speeches are done after the meal, guests may be feeling antsy to get up, move around, and mingle. That way, once the speeches are wrapped up, guests will be done eating, tables will start being cleared, and everyone will be ready to hit the dance floor and get the party started. Main Menu. Sign Up. Back to Main Menu. Planning Tools. Wedding Vision. Discover Your Vision. Take The Knot's Style Quiz. Reception Venues. Wedding Photographers. Bridal Salons. Wedding Planners. Wedding Cakes.
Wedding Rentals. Beauty Services. Wedding Bands. Photo Booths. Bar Services. Dance Lessons. Travel Specialists. Hotel Room Blocks. Others time it around the meal, having all the speeches occur once everyone is seated if you're having a blessing, the toasts should come afterward , or spacing them between the courses.
For a cocktails-only reception, you might kick off the toasts after all the guests have gone through the receiving line and have been served a drink. The best man can signal the start of the toasts by gently tapping the rim of his glass, or just by standing at his seat or stepping to the microphone and asking for everyone's attention.
Champagne or other sparkling wine is traditional. Some couples serve a special drink just for this part of the evening. Of course, people can toast with whatever is in their glass at the time. If your drink runs out, simply raise the empty glass, then set it down without drinking. While you'll certainly want your words to come from the heart, you are not expected to wing it when you get up there.
A few weeks beforehand, collect your thoughts and decide what you will say. Practice reciting your toast a few times until it's familiar and comfortable. The best toasts include personal accounts of first encounters or good times together; a wedding is not the place to dredge up embarrassing tales or old romances. Inside jokes will be lost on others, so make sure to tell a story that everyone can appreciate.
If you're good at it, humor will surely be well-received, but don't force it. Just be yourself. A toast can be as brief as a few sentences, and it should not go on for more than three minutes. Any longer and guests may lose interest -- especially if there are many speakers still to come. Although you should not read word-for-word from a note card, jotting down some key points can help you remember all you want to say and do so with confidence. It's normal to be nervous.
As you rise to give your toast, take a deep breath, look at the person you're toasting, and speak directly to him or her. And remember to speak slowly. A toast to the bride and groom should end with hopeful wishes for a happy future. Response on behalf of the Bridal Party by the Best Man. Toast to the Bride's Parents, by the Best Man or a friend of the brides family. Response by the Bride's Father. Toast to the Groom's Parents, by the Father of the bride or a bride of the grooms family.
Response by the Groom's Father. Reading of telegrams emails, SMS, Facebook posts - If time is short these messages are usually the first to be wiped from the program. Traditionally read by the MC or Best Man. Scheduling speeches for a sit down reception If you are looking for a format of when to schedule in the speeches, we have prepared an extremely traditional line up that includes all the possible toasts including Grace and the Loyal Toast.
The MC introduces the wedding party and announces with great enthusiasm and applause, the bride and groom's arrival into the wedding reception. Grace - if appropriate. Entree is served. Main Course is served. Desert and coffee is served. The MC introduces the person usually the Father of the bride who will propose a toast to the Bride and Groom.
MC introduces the Groom or they can simply get up and speak. The Groom's speech and his Toast to the Bridal Party. MC introduces the Best Man or they can simply get up and speak. MC introduces the Father or Mother of the Bride or they can simply get up and speak. The Father or Mother of the Groom's speech they can welcome and toast the traditional guest of honour and their new daughter-in-law, the Bride.
MC introduces the Best Man or whoever will read out any messages. The MC closes the speeches by thanking everyone, and announces when the cutting of the cake will be made. Short And Sweet If there are just a few speakers: The Host welcomes and toasts the bride and groom traditionally the host was the Father of the Bride as it was the Brides family who paid for the wedding The Groom reponds and toasts the bridesmaids The Best Man responds on behalf of the bridal party and reads any messages.
Breaking Tradition If your mother, bridesmaid or someone outside of the traditional wedding speakers are renowned entertaining speakers then nothing should stop you from asking them to speak.
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