Being honest with yourself and your tribe is the best way to check yourself when you get swept up by a new beau. What are you hoping to get by speeding your relationship up versus spending additional time getting to know each other? Does a Facebook official engagement actually resonant with your gut or are you trying to keep up with the Joneses?
The year I graduated from college, I went to ten weddings—they were all mutual friends of mine that dated since freshmen year of college. I guess when you know your partner is the one, you just do. On the other hand, I know people in healthy marriages who popped the question after dating for only six months. Healthy relationships are all about balance, so if you feel like things are happening too fast, they probably are!
Terms Privacy Policy. Part of HuffPost Relationships. All rights reserved. Stephen Zeigler via Getty Images. You let yourself be overly vulnerable with this person. In all likelihood, your rush to become roomies is a red flag, Ratson said. Suggest a correction. These signs include never introducing you to their family or friends , not following through with plans, and refusing to talk about the future, INSIDER previously reported.
While meeting a person's family and friends is an important step in a new relationship, Sussman said doing so too soon can raise some red flags.
Before you meet your partner's inner circle, you should establish a close connection with them and clearly define your relationship status. Sussman generally tells people to give it about three months before meeting parents and friends. If your new relationship is following another relationship you recently ended, it could be a sign you need to slow down. There is no specific amount of time you should take between relationships, but you do need to come to terms with why your relationship ended and resolve any feelings both positive and negative you have about your ex, Susan Winter, an NYC-based relationship expert, previously told INSIDER.
It's one thing to know you want to eventually get married and have children, but planning your life with someone you only are starting to know could be a sign you need to re-evaluate how quickly your relationship is moving. Do you feel completely drained? Then talk with your partner about striking a better balance between time spent together, and time spent apart. It may seem hyper-romantic at first, but it actually isn't healthy to be all up in each other's business now, or in the future.
And you create that vibe if you're fully diving into each other's lives. If your relationship lacks boundaries , your friends will keep pointing out how it seems like your partner is a "bit much," or you might start viewing yourselves as a single entity, instead of two individuals.
It's easy to mistake this type of infatuation for compatibility, but Zukerman says it's important to keep an eye out for red flags, as it lack of boundaries can lead to a toxic relationship down the road. Remember, it's OK to move at your own pace, and that includes going slower.
If your partner isn't cool with that, then they just aren't worth it. You should feel like major life decisions are sometimes you both feel comfortable with — and anything less than that is a sign something's off.
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